Fat Shaming

There has been a lot of talk around social media about fat shaming the past week because of a comedienne’s video and numerous famous people’s responses. I haven’t watched the video, nor do I recognize the woman, but it has been much talked about. Fat shaming is nothing new. And honestly, it’s not really helpful.

I have been labeled as “fat and lazy” by numerous strangers and some so-called friends over the years. I’ve been told that cardio is for my own good. In high school, a boy I had a crush on told me that maybe I should be introduced to a slim fast. When I signed up for a MySpace account (don’t judge me, it was 2005), I was featured as one of the cool new people of the week. I ended up deleting my account because of the myriad of messages I’d get from strangers opining about my size. Fat whale was one description by a guy in California (yes, I still remember). At a college football game, I got into an argument with a man who had encroached on our space, blocking my view. His only comeback was “shut up you fat bitch.” Unfortunately, back then I went to the bathroom and cried instead of standing my ground.

Yes, I am fat, but those that know me, know that I’m not a very lazy person. To make that assumption about me simply because I’m fat is patently incorrect. The reason that I’m fat has to do with a variety of factors, a lot of them mental. If you’ve read my blog, you know a lot of my history and struggle.

For all those who say they fat shame to help:  All those times I was fat shamed never once encouraged me to lose weight and get healthy. It made me feel awful and then defiant.  Sometimes it had the opposite effect and I’d gain even more weight and then be really hard on myself because I had failed. It makes me feel really defensive and instead of having a productive conversation about my health, I shut down. Not helpful.

I understand that people want to be helpful and encouraging and that is not what I’m talking about.  Addressing someone with so much negativity and without any constructive discussion – how does this help?

I just wanted to set the record straight: Fat does not always equal lazy.

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Food and Fat

Recently, I watched a documentary: Peter Jennings Reporting – How To Get Fat Without Really Trying that aired on ABC on December 8, 2003. Something was said that really resonated with me, “Obesity is not going to be resolved by sheer physical activity alone.” True words. I’ve written some about the stereotypes surrounding fat people. In the past, I lived in constant fear that people thought I was lazy because I was fat.  I’ve struggled with wondering why, no matter how active I was, I was still fat.  It drove me crazy. Being active has always come easier to me than making better food choices.  It is just so easy to pick up something pre-packaged (okay, maybe I am lazy).  I would reward calories-burned with desserts eaten.  I thought that it was a simple calorie swap.  I heard it for years: the key to losing weight is to burn more calories than you consume.  So I’d log my food eaten and either severely limit my caloric intake or stay on the elliptical for an hour trying furiously to burn off that brownie I had eaten for breakfast. It wasn’t that easy.


Let’s read those words again.  “Obesity is not going to be resolved by sheer physical activity alone.” Food choice is so very important. I know this, but I still struggle daily to pick fruits and veggies over carbs and well, more carbs. And not good carbs, but sugary-sweet-processed foods. I’m an educated woman, but for some reason I have this mental block when it comes to making smart food choices.  This has to change, and I know it.  So I’m very interested in your food ideas. I don’t like fish, but love other seafood options and just about anything else.  Let the ideas flow.


P.S. If anyone knows of a good and natural pre-workout, I’d love to hear it.  My pre-workout just isn’t doing it for me anymore. Thanks y’all!

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